The Friday Five: Misconceptions of Romantic Comedies

Let me preface this entry by saying that first of all, I’m a sucker for romantic comedies. I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy a cheesy love story every now and then, even if it did have a questionable soundtrack and plotline. As long as the script is solid, the characters are likable and the ideas are at least somewhat fresh, I will probably enjoy the movie at least a little bit.

Having said that, I worry about the effects these types of movies have on young audiences, especially when it comes to their expectations of how relationships really work. In the past, I’ve blogged about the dangers of taking these movies too seriously, but today I want to explore some of these misconceptions in greater depth.

Keep in mind that every rule has its exception (just think of He’s Just Not That Into You!), but be wary of applying every romantic comedy trope to your own life.

The Friday Five: Misconceptions of Romantic Comedies

1. You will fall for your best friend.
People are attracted to this idea for many reasons. For one thing, many of us have close friends of the opposite gender, and so this reassures us that even when we are having all sorts of problems in our love lives, we always have that one person to fall back on. This also tells us that someone we care about deeply has been there the whole time, just waiting for us to love them back. And it’s true that many of the traits we admire in our friends are equally desirable in a boyfriend or girlfriend, but there is also such a thing as the friend zone. As Chuck Klosterman mentions in Sex, Drugs and Cocoa Puffs, we are not always attracted to our friends, and to recommend that everyone date their best friend would be almost irresponsible. While I do believe that significant others should evolve into strong friendships over time, I don’t think those relationships should start out the other way around. Unless you’re madly in love with that person, you risk sacrificing a strong friendship all to avoid potential loneliness.


2. You will fall for your enemy.
The more passionate the banter, the more passionate the relationship? Wrong. Some movies (Katherine Heigl stars in quite a few of them!) emphasize the idea that the less you get along with the other person, the more likely they are your soulmate. While you don’t always have to agree with your significant other, it would be foolish to assume that polar opposites who can’t stand one another at first are going to end up happy together. Maybe it worked for Elizabeth Bennett and Mr. Darcy, but 1800s romance novels are a whole different ballpark! 🙂


3. A makeover will cure just about anything.
Tons of romantic comedies have it: the montage of eyebrow plucking, hair styling and wardrobe fixing. The girl learns how to apply makeup or insert contact lenses, and suddenly all is right with the world. She sheds her old image and emerges a glamorous new woman. But girls have to remember that it’s not just the makeover that has the prom king begging for a date with our young heroine; it’s the confidence she now exudes because of those changes. Alterations to one’s outer beauty can only help so much.


4. The nice guy always wins.
While being nice is something that I try to advocate every day, I can’t always promise that the sweet guy who comforted the girl in her time of need is going to win her heart over the jerk that she’s been dating for years. Some people are attached to those people worst for them, and often they place their protectors (like the nice guy above) in the aforementioned friend zone. This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try, but it also doesn’t mean that you should be surprised when the girl has a harder time than expected in getting over a guy not worthy of her time.


5. One grand gesture is all it takes.
If you lie to your significant other about your identity, or cheat on them with their best friend, or do anything that puts your relationship in question, a simple “heartfelt” speech isn’t going to fix things. Although I always hold my breath for the adorable speeches at the end of romantic comedies, I realize that words mean nothing if there isn’t some meaning behind them. In other words, if someone seriously hurts you, you can’t expect a kiss in the rain to heal those wounds.

10 Replies to “The Friday Five: Misconceptions of Romantic Comedies”

  1. He’s Just Not That Into You is such a guilty pleasure of mine. I think I may be one of 5 people who like it.

    That said, great post! As much as a lot of people try to think they’re above letting a romantic comedy influence their expectations of relationships, it happens to everyone. It’s important to always make sure what we are feeling or thinking about a person isn’t influenced by things we’ve just seen repeatedly, especially if they’re Katherine Heigl films.

    1. I love that movie too! I think it’s a little less guilty than those other movies because at least it flat out tells you, these things don’t typically happen in real life. It basically says that you should be careful what you infer from stupid little things, but at the same time you shouldn’t lose all hope. A perfect balance 🙂 Every girl wants to be some guy’s exception.

      Very true… I can’t tell you how many times my friends have tried to convince me that I should date certain guy friends because of inevitability. I’ll do what I want, thank you very much, and I’ll date someone because I’ve really started to like them that way, not because it seems like the perfect Hollywood ending.

      Thanks for commenting! 🙂

      1. Haha I know. There’s nothing worse than someone telling you “Maybe you hate him so much because you really want him.” It’s like “No, I hate him because I hate him. Go away.”

        I think like you said the movie was a perfect balance because there were some relationships that ended up ideally, like Jennifer Aniston’s and Ben Affleck’s, or Ginnifer Goodwin’s and Justin Long’s but then there were the inevitable failures that happened to Bradley Cooper and his two women, whether or not those failures were deserved on any of their parts.

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